Right guy. Wrong time. Right time. Wrong guy.

Story of my life!

But after a long chat with a friend, I have come to the conclusion that the right man will accept and love the things about you that the wrong man was intimidated by. This sounds so good on paper…however, in reality we are so desperate for companionship and because of society’s stigma, we create this “list” of what the perfect guy should be like.

And on we go with our daily business, meeting people, networking and then we meet someone who fits our list perfectly. The only problem is, we are not part of theirs. And this is the lovely conundrum we all find ourselves in.

That said, I have thrown my list away! And with that, I’ve thrown caution to the wind. Let the chips fall where they may. Every chance that comes my way, I’m taking it…

However, this comes with a lot of risk. And because you are now exposing yourself, your heart, your feelings, you are more prone to heartache and rejection. And the worst thing anyone can do to you is make you feel special then suddenly leaves you hanging and you have to go on with life, acting like you just don’t care at all…but you do.

Show your ice heart, you lose. Show your warm heart, you lose. When do we win?!?

BUT…I guess this is all part of the journey into the unknown. And eventually you will get paid exactly what you put out. Just like the stock markets – the bigger the risk, the higher the pay out. We just don’t see it that way. Girls suffer from temporary amnesia = where we forget that there are 1.2 billion other guys out there and we just focus all our attention on this one person who most probably doesn’t even know you exist. And the ones you do not want to attract, are the ones who shower you with flowers, compliments, dinner dates… (they’re in the dreaded friend zone).

I start wondering whether or not there is something wrong with me, why can’t I just “seal the deal” but then again, why do I have to fix me? I’m not broken. And of course this journey into the unknown won’t be easy…but I’m hopeful that it will be worth it…one day.

Ja nee wat, Right guy, wrong time. Right time, wrong guy. New guy, old lines. Old guy, new lies. I just can’t choose.

Love, Reesie (SA’s very own Bridget Jones)

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